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Discovering Silence: A Journey Within
At 52, life's shifts whispered a deep need for change. Many of us rush through life, driven by societal expectations or family obligations, that we often forget the importance of simply existing. For years, I played the role of the talkative one, the people-pleaser, always ensuring everyone else's comfort by drowning out my own silent yearnings with chatter and engagement.
The Transformation Begins
It was in the quiet solitude of a monastery that I confronted my busyness and its roots. The Monastere des Augustines offered an environment that resonated with centuries of silence and contemplation. I spent three days in a refuge that allowed me to dive deep into my thoughts—a backdrop where the clatter of daily life faded away, and I was left to face myself.
The contrast of life under the monastery’s serene façade was enlightening. This sanctuary in Quebec City had witnessed the dedicated life of the Augustine sisters, who prioritized silence as part of their service to humanity. Without spoken words, they had cultivated a unique strength and presence that reverberated through every corner of the convent, offering a lesson I desperately needed.
Reevaluating My Space and Presence
In different settings, our presence can be heavily influenced by past experiences. I had always been there, talking, engaging; now, the challenge was to embrace stillness. It was during these silent days that I learned the beauty of soft presence. The nuns, in their unspoken grace, embodied a profound strength, teaching me the value of occupying my space without the need for words.
The Power of Quietness
As I reflected on my people-pleasing tendencies, a revelation unfurled—was my chatter a mask hiding my insecurities? Each casual conversation and surface interaction helped mold who I thought I had to be. Learning to hold my space required me to engage with the uncomfortable silence, recognizing it as a powerful tool for introspection and personal growth.
Incorporating Silence into Daily Life
Upon returning home, I began integrating elements of that three-day retreat into my daily routine. Simple practices like meditation and device-free time have enriched my sense of self. By reclaiming those moments of quiet, I fortify my mental wellness and develop a deeper understanding of my needs and desires.
Fostering Connection in Silence
Embracing silence doesn't equate to withdrawal from relationships or connection; rather, it enriches them. Engaging actively in my conversations became more meaningful as I began allowing pauses, highlighting a newfound depth in my engagements. Realizing that listening plays a vital role in conversation allowed for richer interaction, despite fewer words.
A Call to Action: Try Your Own Retreat
If my story resonates with you, I encourage you to consider a silent retreat—be it for a few hours, days, or even a weekend. Such experiences can catalyze a transformative journey towards knowing yourself better. Holding your own space isn’t just an exercise; it’s a critical journey to embracing who you truly are beneath the surface.
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